Face A Fear Everyday :: It’s Okay Not To Be ‘Cool’

Face A Fear Everyday :: It's Okay Not To Be 'Cool'

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Friday Fun:: Let’s Sushi Samba

 It’s been a year since I first went to Sushi Samba but let’s just say my head might still be in the clouds…

The Asian Destination:: Sushi Samba

and with a view like this, can you blame me!?

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3 Things To Remember For The Holidays

It’s the last day of November. Have you made the most of it?

It’s been a busy month but I know that December will completely flies by as work gets wrapped up and sprinkled with Christmas festivities.

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Are you ticking things off?

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Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving

The world is filled with wonderful festivals & holidays that create opportunities to learn about new cultures and traditions.

BUT – Don’t waste your time waiting for Thanksgiving in order to give thanks.

#ShowYourGratitude Everyday!

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So it’s nearing the end of November – How did that happen?!

We all know what that means; the holiday season is upon us & the New Year is fast approaching.

I hear you say: ‘It’s not even December yet!!’

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Light up, Lift up and Don’t be afraid to SHINE

So, we’ve spoken about this before. The fear of ‘shining’. What does this mean? What does this entail?

A Christian friend said to me at her local church service today, this theme was also discussed.

What often amazes me is that at their core, so many religions share fundament core values such as love, peace, hope and an ultimate faith in the ‘divine source’. The term ‘religion’ often just acts as a means of different people reaching their own ‘enlightenment’ or ‘path’ and if that path helps maintain their faith, brings them closer to a sense of meaning…then what is the harm in that?

I thought it was apt to discuss it here, given that today is officially Diwali, the Festival of Lights, in the Hindu calendar.

As a child, I was painfully shy. I would still classify myself as ‘shy’ though age, experience and wisdom has helped me to spread partial wings and leaving a shell that remains, if I ever need it to retreat to.

One other thing that happened as I was growing up is that I became scared to ‘shine’. There may be some people that can relate to this. We don’t want to appear different; we would rather hide in the shadows and be a ‘sheep’ than step out into the unknown and embrace the things that help us stand out, even if it was to the detriment of our own success. I was scared of being unique.

Diwali is a time for rebirth, rejuvenation and reflection. It reminds me that we don’t need to wait for the new year to make a new resolution (however, today is obviously convenient because The Festival of Lights symbolises new beginnings anyway…!).

Why?

Because each and every moment is a moment of rejuvenation, an opportunity to change. Though obvious, the idea hit me again today and emphasised one important point.

So many of us are victims to making ’empty promises’. You know what I mean:

When ‘x’ happens….I’ll do ‘y’

We wait for ‘the perfect time’, we make up excuses and dim our light.

STOP. Today is your day to ‘Face A Fear Everyday’. Today is your day to not ‘shelf your light’ but in fact to shine your light.

Embrace what you have to offer the world, we’re all different. Be proud to be unique.

Don’t be afraid to look stupid!

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Stupid

We hate to feel embarrassed, humiliated or to feel stupid, don’t we?

Throughout life, I have always been the shy and quiet type.

My report cards would come back with good grades but often with the comment: ‘doesn’t put her hand up in class’.

Why?

Whether in the classroom or in the real-world, we learn to fear ‘being wrong’ and this I guess is partly why, when I was a lot younger, I refrained from participating for fear of

  1. Asking a ridiculous question OR
  2. Replying with a completely incorrect answer.

Slowly though, in time as most children do, I realised that being too afraid to speak up was in fact counter-productive and detrimental to my own growth.

We learn through making mistakes, and one of the most important lessons I have learnt is to not take life so seriously.

Don’t get me wrong. Of course there are issues which need serious attention. However, there are certain situations where one needs to let go of a particular outcome and let things be.

Appearing stupid after asking a foolish question is one of them.

If you never ask, you’ll never know so why regret the decision?!

Today’s FAFE theme is in keeping with the above.

There are times when you want to ask intelligent questions (but they don’t come across as!)

There are times when you ask a person a question that you actually already know the answer to (yes, admit it, you’ve done that before…!)

and then there are those times when you ask a question that you really should know the answer to but don’t (and hence may end up looking a little ignorant).

My question asking went something a bit like this:

3/10: were intelligent (ish!) questions

3/10: I already knew the answer to

…and 4/10 I most definitely did not and *may* have ended up looking a bit stupid.

HOWEVER, moral of the story is that I’m glad I asked ALL of the questions since I have come away with a better knowledge of the subject.

So Today: Go on. Be Brave.

Ask the question that you’ve been meaning to.

Face the fear of looking stupid…and do it anyway. 

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Do you suffer from this too?!

‘Do one thing everyday that scares you’

– Eleanor Roosevelt.

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It’s the start of a new academic year. At least in the UK it is, and it’s only just starting.

For some of us, this might not mean much, especially if you’ve had a long summer working, be it in at a full-time job or studying for a particular academic qualification. In my case, autumn approaching leaves me asking: where did the summer go and how is it September already?!

September is usually the start of ‘new beginnings’ in terms of the academic year. New goals are being set and new aspirations are made with hope.

September also means multiple new notebooks and that dreaded ‘first blank page syndrome’.

Not sure what I’m talking about?

Have you ever felt intimidated of starting work on that blank page because you were worried it wouldn’t be ‘perfect’?

The blank page may come in various shapes and sizes. It may be the team/part you never tried out for because you weren’t in ‘perfect shape’ and ‘it wasn’t the right time’. Or maybe you never started that project because you didn’t ‘just the right’ lighting, resources or money.

Sound familiar?

I’m sure we’ve all experienced the hesitance at starting something before we were ready, for fear of not being perfect.

I’ve been putting off  the ‘facing a fear’ series for that very reason!

Facing A Fear Everyday (FAFE) is aimed at doing something out of my comfort zone and taking a step towards being better, every single day.

It doesn’t matter how tiny the step is, as long as you keep moving forward.

So today: Whatever it is – START. Take that first step and test your FAFE!

If you liked this post or if it inspired you to try and join me FAFE then get in touch!

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Who wants a fairytale anyway?!

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Take the road less travelled and see where it takes you.

The time is now, what lessons have you learnt that you want to put into practice?

When we’re young, we often think life will pan out like one big fairytale. This can only be for the better: life is what you make of it: who wants a boring fairytale anyway? Aren’t you worth more than that?

Don’t you wish you knew your limits, don’t you wish you’d unlocked your full potential? Then start living, start seeing every setback, every challenge and every obstacle for what it really is: an opportunity.

Want an opportunity to grow, an opportunity to show your full strength? Life throws you hardships and waits for you to man up and fight back.

So today: Make your own happy ending…because fairytale’s are getting old anyway.

What’s your unique story?

We’re all experiencing life in our own unique ways. Each and every one has a story tell, be brave enough to let the world hear it.

Have you ever felt like you’re not good enough? Maybe you felt like you weren’t good enough for someone, academically or just worthy enough to live your own dreams.

Well, you know what? That’s absolutely false.
For a long time I felt like I wasn’t good enough because I wasn’t studying in medical school, like a good, typical Indian. However much my parents assure me otherwise, there’s a small part of me that still believes it to this day.

Today is worth living, for your own dreams, not someone else’s. You start and end this world alone, in possession of one precious gift called life. It is up to you what you do with it; whether you choose to live life for yourself or not, the time will pass anyway. So isn’t it just worth making it YOUR best life?

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Never apologise for being yourself!

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It’s only a bad day…

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Don’t be a thundercloud this Friday!

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(136) Don’t be too hard on yourself!

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