Don’t be afraid to look stupid!

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Stupid

We hate to feel embarrassed, humiliated or to feel stupid, don’t we?

Throughout life, I have always been the shy and quiet type.

My report cards would come back with good grades but often with the comment: ‘doesn’t put her hand up in class’.

Why?

Whether in the classroom or in the real-world, we learn to fear ‘being wrong’ and this I guess is partly why, when I was a lot younger, I refrained from participating for fear of

  1. Asking a ridiculous question OR
  2. Replying with a completely incorrect answer.

Slowly though, in time as most children do, I realised that being too afraid to speak up was in fact counter-productive and detrimental to my own growth.

We learn through making mistakes, and one of the most important lessons I have learnt is to not take life so seriously.

Don’t get me wrong. Of course there are issues which need serious attention. However, there are certain situations where one needs to let go of a particular outcome and let things be.

Appearing stupid after asking a foolish question is one of them.

If you never ask, you’ll never know so why regret the decision?!

Today’s FAFE theme is in keeping with the above.

There are times when you want to ask intelligent questions (but they don’t come across as!)

There are times when you ask a person a question that you actually already know the answer to (yes, admit it, you’ve done that before…!)

and then there are those times when you ask a question that you really should know the answer to but don’t (and hence may end up looking a little ignorant).

My question asking went something a bit like this:

3/10: were intelligent (ish!) questions

3/10: I already knew the answer to

…and 4/10 I most definitely did not and *may* have ended up looking a bit stupid.

HOWEVER, moral of the story is that I’m glad I asked ALL of the questions since I have come away with a better knowledge of the subject.

So Today: Go on. Be Brave.

Ask the question that you’ve been meaning to.

Face the fear of looking stupid…and do it anyway. 

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Highlights from August 2013

 

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The 3 Things To Be Successful…Happy Friday! xo

If you haven’t seen this yet here’s your Friday treat:

 

Happy Raksha Bandhan

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A very happy Rakhsha Bandhan or Rakhi Purnima (in Bengali)!

Today is the day sisters tie the sacred thread or rakhion their brother’s wrist to symbolise her love for him whilst in return he pledges to protect his sister.

These days Raksha Bandhan is a day where brothers and sisters feed each other sweets (yes, yet anotherexcuse to eat!) and basically celebrate the kinship between siblings.

Rakhi Purnima, does now however exclude only children, like myself. As most of you know, I’m the subcontinent, cousins/close friends are usually recognised as brothers and sisters too. In fact, as well as tying rakhis on my male cousins, I would also end up tying them on my other cherished male relatives: my grandfathers and my uncles.

So today: Whether you are Indian or not, an only child or one of many:
Be grateful for your siblings. Not just those that you are related to, for we are all one. We, as people, are the same: we breathe the same air, we share the same biology and fundamentally, we all have a desire to love and be loved.
Extend a Rakhi, the bond of protection to allyour brothers and sisters today. You may realise you have more siblings than you once thought!

Happy Raksha Bandhan to all!
With love,
The Asian Destination xo

Are you monkeying around?

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It’s important to sometimes stop and take a moment to just watch the world go by. Other times however, we spend too long daydreaming, monkeying around, planning what we should be doing but not actually doing it!

So today: Are you monkeying around? Stop. Take in the moment and then take action!