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Don’t you worry…and don’t be afraid!

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Ever get scared of shining? No, leave the Twilight references thank you! We mean downplaying your own achievements because you felt guilty?

Yes? Well DON’T!

We’re all meant to shine in our own unique ways so don’t belittle yourself just to fit in with someone’s perception of you!
Stand tall and don’t be afraid to reach the stars – you deserve it after all!

The only important thing to remember when flying…

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Being selfless is a good quality to have.
However, don’t forget to look after number one. If you keep ‘giving too much’ you run the risk of resenting the people you’re helping because you won’t have the time or energy to do the things you enjoy.

We might all switch off when they show us the safety procedures on the plane but remember this:

Make sure to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping other people.

Self-worth. Do you have it?

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Have you ever settled for something because you were too scared to wait it out for something you really deserved?

It might be a person, friendship or relationship.

It might be a job, course, university.

It might be a flat or a house.

Don’t be afraid to acknowledge your self-worth. That means facing your fear to stand your ground and not settle for a partner, job or house that you know deep down is wrong for you.

Today: Be strong. Stand your ground. And don’t be scared to stand up for your self-worth.

Tag. You’re it! We dare you to step out…

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Whether you are scared of trying something different like a new class or something, meeting someone new or entering a competition – there’s always the fear of rejection!

Today, why not face that fear. Even if you end up not liking that class or not winning, at least you took the risk.

It’s okay to be a bit weird…

different

 

So in keeping with the recent #FAFE theme , I thought I’d repost my blog on being scared about standing out and being different.

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The first day of school, college or university is always accompanied by a mixture of nervous excitement and mild panic. In my case, each of these milestone events come with an added issue to stress about: ‘How would my name be prounounced this time?!’

If you are like me, you are one of those fortunate souls with a name (or perhaps multiple) that finds itself being mispronounced frequently. The name may make perfect logical sense in your family’s ethnic language, culture or religion, yet as it journeys through the English language, its pronunciation appears to get left behind.

Before my name was called in the register, there would always be a pause before the teacher or lecturer made a hesitant attempt at ‘Ananya’. Some others however, decided they were not going to even try to pronounce it and instead asked whether I had another name I preferred to be called. Thus was born an English equivalent nickname, ‘Ana’, that has stuck with me throughout most of my life. Most Indians or at least Bengalis have 2 names: a ‘good’ name (Ananya) for official documentation and a ‘dahk’ or ‘affectionate nickname’ used by friends and family. ‘Ana’ became my ‘English Dahk’ name alongside my other Bengali nicknames.

I used to go through a phase of just switching topic when anyone asked about the real pronunciation. Some were persistent and would seek out a fellow Indian in the hope of finding out my ‘real name’. Triumphantly they would proclaim they had discovered the ‘Indian way’ of saying it. However, India is a country of numerous cultures, traditions and languages. Hindi may be universally spoken but different Indian states have separate principal languages. Within these, diverse variations in dialect can also be noticed, depending on geographical location. This means that ‘Ananya’ in Hindi is pronounced much like the modified English version, only with a few softer syllables: ‘Ah-naan-ee-yah’, which is noticeably different to the Bengali pronunciation.

It is interesting that even non-Bengalis, living in an area of West Bengal (where Bengali or Bangla can be heard predominantly) will pronounce ‘Ananya’ as ‘Ah-naan-ee-yah’. Not that it bothers me. I have become accustomed to hearing variations of my name. In fact, I like to make note of the most original attempts: ‘Ah-nigh-ah’ has maintained its first place position for a number of years now, whilst the National Health Service tried to record my name as ‘Anan Ya’. To this day, however, my dentist still tries to call me ‘Anya’…

Maturity has revealed the core issue at play at adopting ‘Ana’ over ‘Ananya’. I wanted to be like my peers and therefore shied away from my full name, assumed ‘Ana’ instead and consequently the name has stuck. Yet as I have gotten older, I have come to realise that each and every one of us has quirks that make us different: misplacing items hours after being purchased, adding cheese to every meal (!), obsessing about Canadian popstars – sound familiar?! These traits are for celebrating not being ashamed of. What is it about yourself that makes you different?

Mine? So, what is my name, really?
Ananya, pronounced in Bengali as ‘O-non-nah’ (O as in ‘lot’) meaning ‘unique’, or ‘like no other’, in Sanskrit.

So today I ask, is there anything about yourself that you have been hiding or shying away from? Instead of shying away, can you embrace this about yourself and be proud? After all, without these qualities, positive or negative, we would not be who we are today, the same as everyone else– we would not be unique.

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Don’t be afraid to look stupid!

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Stupid

We hate to feel embarrassed, humiliated or to feel stupid, don’t we?

Throughout life, I have always been the shy and quiet type.

My report cards would come back with good grades but often with the comment: ‘doesn’t put her hand up in class’.

Why?

Whether in the classroom or in the real-world, we learn to fear ‘being wrong’ and this I guess is partly why, when I was a lot younger, I refrained from participating for fear of

  1. Asking a ridiculous question OR
  2. Replying with a completely incorrect answer.

Slowly though, in time as most children do, I realised that being too afraid to speak up was in fact counter-productive and detrimental to my own growth.

We learn through making mistakes, and one of the most important lessons I have learnt is to not take life so seriously.

Don’t get me wrong. Of course there are issues which need serious attention. However, there are certain situations where one needs to let go of a particular outcome and let things be.

Appearing stupid after asking a foolish question is one of them.

If you never ask, you’ll never know so why regret the decision?!

Today’s FAFE theme is in keeping with the above.

There are times when you want to ask intelligent questions (but they don’t come across as!)

There are times when you ask a person a question that you actually already know the answer to (yes, admit it, you’ve done that before…!)

and then there are those times when you ask a question that you really should know the answer to but don’t (and hence may end up looking a little ignorant).

My question asking went something a bit like this:

3/10: were intelligent (ish!) questions

3/10: I already knew the answer to

…and 4/10 I most definitely did not and *may* have ended up looking a bit stupid.

HOWEVER, moral of the story is that I’m glad I asked ALL of the questions since I have come away with a better knowledge of the subject.

So Today: Go on. Be Brave.

Ask the question that you’ve been meaning to.

Face the fear of looking stupid…and do it anyway. 

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Do you suffer from this too?!

‘Do one thing everyday that scares you’

– Eleanor Roosevelt.

FAFE

It’s the start of a new academic year. At least in the UK it is, and it’s only just starting.

For some of us, this might not mean much, especially if you’ve had a long summer working, be it in at a full-time job or studying for a particular academic qualification. In my case, autumn approaching leaves me asking: where did the summer go and how is it September already?!

September is usually the start of ‘new beginnings’ in terms of the academic year. New goals are being set and new aspirations are made with hope.

September also means multiple new notebooks and that dreaded ‘first blank page syndrome’.

Not sure what I’m talking about?

Have you ever felt intimidated of starting work on that blank page because you were worried it wouldn’t be ‘perfect’?

The blank page may come in various shapes and sizes. It may be the team/part you never tried out for because you weren’t in ‘perfect shape’ and ‘it wasn’t the right time’. Or maybe you never started that project because you didn’t ‘just the right’ lighting, resources or money.

Sound familiar?

I’m sure we’ve all experienced the hesitance at starting something before we were ready, for fear of not being perfect.

I’ve been putting off  the ‘facing a fear’ series for that very reason!

Facing A Fear Everyday (FAFE) is aimed at doing something out of my comfort zone and taking a step towards being better, every single day.

It doesn’t matter how tiny the step is, as long as you keep moving forward.

So today: Whatever it is – START. Take that first step and test your FAFE!

If you liked this post or if it inspired you to try and join me FAFE then get in touch!

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Highlights from August 2013

 

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